Finding the ideal man

Have you noticed that there are more single women in the over 50 age group than men? There are obvious reasons such as women living longer than men and in virtually every study, men have affairs at a higher rate, often running off with the “other woman” – the rascals!

There is another reason which came to mind when I heard a woman mention that she “couldn’t find the right fellow”. After discussion with Adele, we agreed that women are setting very high standards today for what they want in a man.

Several decades ago, women stayed in relationships – even when they weren’t going well because there was a stigma to divorce or leaving a man. Today, women have no such restraints and do not need to put up with the abuse and nonsense that they used to in the past. The down side is that developing long term, meaningful relationships becomes more difficult, compounded by the fewer number of available men as women age.

So is there a solution? Something that may be overlooked is the power of the written word. You may wonder, what has that go to do with a relationship? Those of you that know about goal setting, appreciate that if you focus on something and write it down in detail, there is a greater likelihood of it manifesting in your life.

We have found this to be true in many areas of life. Before Adele and I even met, she had written a list of what she wanted in a man; everything from physique, intelligence, compassion, dress sense, fitness––and many more. She read the list and placed it in a drawer. Just six months later, after we met, she pulled out the list and I matched it almost to the letter. The only discrepancy was that I was five foot, six inches tall. She had written down someone a half inch taller––she didn’t want to put a kink in her neck having to kiss someone six foot tall.

If you are unattached, why don’t you write down in some detail, what you want in a man, but be somewhat realistic. It may not be possible to get someone who looks like George Clooney, makes love to you twice a day and has $100 million in the bank.

Try it and have fun with it; what have you got to lose? Remember to do it in some detail and put a date by which you would love to see that man walk into your life. You may just get the surprise of your life.

How did you meet your partner? Was it love at first sight? Tell us your story in the comments below…